I have always found October to be a challenging month. Regardless of the scoreboard each weekend, October marks 8 weeks into the marathon of the football season.
The kids especially seem to begin to breakdown in October. I think they start to feel they have shared Daddy long enough. We haven’t always weathered the “Mid Season Melt Down” well, but if we cling to the following tips things usually go smoothly.
1) Protect date night like a mama bear protects a cub. Usually, by October, our date nights consist of dinner/lunch out because we are both too tired to focus on anything thought provoking like a movie. Regardless this time is critical. You need to try to connect before midnight.
2) Help your coach pursue the kids. For us, this means dinner at the office once a week, daddy attending Cub Scout meetings, and special Sunday mornings before church. Remember you are working for quality over quantity. At previous schools, this meant heading to practice even if there was cleaning at home to be done.
3) Don’t commit to things. It’s tempting to start to think towards the end of the season and holidays. Don’t get too ahead of yourself. Hearing about having to travel to see family or friends, parties or extra commitment even if scheduled after the season feel overwhelming for an over traveled “in the thick of it” coach. Especially a coach who is more naturally introverted. Keep that schedule with a few “as clear as possible” days on it, those white squares will become a beacon of hope.
4) Keep yourself busy. Did you finish that crafting project you started in August? Hop on Pinterest and start looking towards Christmas. Girlfriend, there are teacher gifts, staff gifts, family gifts and likely a birthday party or 2 to be looking towards.
5) If you start the countdown, do it privately. We have had seasons where we have begun the countdown only to have the season extended, it’s exciting for the team but tough for the kids.