A few weeks ago our family was gifted tickets to see Jason Gray, Citizen Way and Big Daddy Weave. Prior to performing the song Not Right Now. Jason said “Pain is holy ground in someone’s life because when we walk through it we are more whole on the other side.” He talked about a time when he was broken and found comfort in a friend who simply listened.
I know someday
I know somehow
I’ll be okay
But not right now
These simple words really say it all don’t they? These phrases are true for one reason. Regardless of our pain, Jesus is our comforter and the phrase “I’ll be okay” will always hold true, when we move past the right now and allow space for our comforter to move.
3 He restores my soul;
He guides me in the paths of righteousness
For His name’s sake 4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You have anointed my head with oil; My cup overflows.
16 Turn to me, and be gracious to me;
Oh grant Your strength to Your servant,
And save the son of Your handmaid.
17 Show me a sign for good,
That those who hate me may see it and be ashamed,
Because You, O Lord, have helped me and comforted me.
Whether it be the valley of the shadow of death or being hated, pain is pain. In that time of sorrow, the best way we can support each other is to allow for a time of grieving. Jason pointed out that often when we cry the first thing we do is apologize for doing so. He suggested that when we find ourselves being asked to enter into the holy ground of pain with someone we sit silently, listen, make space for the grief and be thankful for the privilege of being asked to grieve.
This picture above is my boys with Jason after the concert. We watched as he prayed with people at the end of the concert and practiced what he preached. He entered into pain, listened, prayed and repeated himself. After that he graciously took photos with fans and thanked people for attending the concert.
Love Will Have the Final Word (2014) was playing in the car a few days later and when Not Right Now came on E said, “Hey this is Jason, I think this is my favorite song of his.”. I can’t help but think that it was more than taking a picture with this man that connected my child’s heart to him in a way he feels comfortable enough to call him by his first name. The honesty of the words in this album modeled before our eyes impacted us all that night. We were challenged to grieve differently, comfort differently and I believe we will be more whole on the other side for it.