PSA: What NOT to Say to a Coaching Family

What NOT to say to a Coach's WifeI’m writing over at Friday Night Wives. Here’s a Preview:

 

Hey sports fans! We’re transitioning seasons from fall to winter sports which has recently reminded me of all the hard conversations post season brings. I did a quick poll with confirmed coaches’ wives around the country and have compiled a list of the most commonly asked questions we really wish we didn’t have to answer. I’m also going to explain why NOT asking these things will show your favorite coach’s wife how much you care.

Post Season

  • Are you happy the season is finally over?
  • Weren’t you supposed to have a better season this year?
  • How is your husband doing dealing with all the losses this year?

In the few days where there is little going on with coaching we aren’t trying to dwell on the season. We’re all adjusting to a new routine and enjoying a few more dates, but we aren’t happy the season is over. A short season means we didn’t win as many games as we could have and that is always disappointing.

Post seasons are filled with weight room workouts, individual coaching, recruiting, and a lot of film work. High school coaches are helping their upperclassmen connect with college opportunities. It’s also filled with a lot of meetings about how to improve.

  • Well, you can’t win them all!
  • What’s the big deal? It’s just a game.

These two statements may be the most frustrating of all for coaches’ wives. First of all, you CAN win them all when you have an undefeated season.  ? More than that, we KNOW that it’s extremely hard to win consistently year after year, which is why statements like “It’s just a game” or “You can’t win them all” are ones we just don’t know how to answer well.

Football (or soccer, basketball or baseball) IS a game, but it’s also an avenue to develop characteristics such as perseverance and integrity under pressure. Coaches help players learn how to work on teams and lead teammates. So, it is a big deal, win or lose.

 

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Christmas Gifts for Your Favorite Coaching Family

Christams Gifts for Your Favorite Coaching Family

Christmas is around the corner and it’s a time of uncertainty for many football families. It stinks that the holiday season is also the season of transition, but it is what it is. I’ve compiled a list of gift ideas for your favorite coaching family. These gifts are ones they can use whether they are staying or moving!

For the Foodies:

Homemade gifts like our favorite Peppermint Hot Chocolate mix or cookies are always appreciated.

You can also take things a step further with Blue Apron or Hello Fresh gift card or specific foods such as Omaha Steaks, Giordano’s Pizza, or a wine of the month club.

For the Hobbyist:

Is there a hobby the coaching couple or family loves? Hobbies are a great way to build family memories, but they often cost money. If your favorite coaching family likes to paint pottery together or build model trains add to their opportunities to enjoy their hobby. You may think that a coaching family’s only hobby is their sport, but I guarantee you they look for ways to get away from it all even for a little while.

My husband takes our boys on a yearly guys camping trip. Several years in a row my aunt sent money to purchase a piece of camping equipment. It was a huge blessing as we built up our equipment stash and made each camping trip easier as there was less to rent.

For the Whole Family:

Our family loves to include experiences in our breaks. Whether it’s a trip to the movies, a local museum or the zoo we have found that our kids love getting to see or do things as a family.

Consider memberships to zoos, museums, or local playgroups. For older kids the opportunity to try rock climbing, horseback riding is something they will love. Finally, consider tickets to a sporting event or the theatre. Our boys don’t “love” musicals, but they have enjoyed the few we’ve attended.

If you are lucky enough to spend the holidays together look for something local to experience together. Our boys equally love a day at Dave and Busters and the Museum of Science and Industry.

For That Special Couple:

Anything that encourages a coaching couple to spend time together away from a sporting event is a huge win. Buy them a weekend away at a couple’s retreat. Coaches Time Out, FCA Marriage Getaway, and Weekend to Remember are all great events. If the timing doesn’t work out for an actual event get them a gift card for a hotel and some money for a babysitter if needed. This is the gift that is always a hit.

Date night is something many coaching families prioritize. Gift cards to local restaurants or the movie theatre are helpful and used any time of the year. For a more creative option check out The Date Night Subscription Box Crate with Love.  Datebox is another fun option for a monthly creative date prompt.

Gift Cards for the New Home

Is your favorite coaching family in transition? Consider Etsy, Walmart, Ikea, Target or Amazon gift cards. There are always new spaces to decorate and things that break and require replacing. Gift cards are easy to move and will bless the family in their new home.

Well, that is my list of ideas for Christmas this year! Check out my top gift ideas for Your Favorite Coach and Your Favorite Coach’s Wife here!

What I Learned Fall 2018

What I LearnedFall 2018

Limitations

This will be one of the years I look back at as a milestone reminder of my limitations. I accepted an extra short-term assignment helping cover a maternity leave. It was a huge blessing for our family, but it also meant ten fewer hours each week for friends, family, football, and chores. It also meant operating with zero margin.

On a positive note, I’ve become much more comfortable asking for help, which was one of my Powersheets goals!

Another thing I learned this fall is that conveniences aren’t always as helpful as we expect they will be. Everything is a trade-off. Using Shipt was a great way to reduce hours reserved for errands, but that also meant our food budget had to increase to off-set the lack of sales. Additionally, over half of the Shipt orders were incorrect, meaning I either needed to run to the store myself (the thing I was trying to avoid) or spend time dealing with customer service.

While every area is different, the winner for us is Walmart pick up with both cost and accuracy.

Tiny Wins

With a full calendar, I found my progress on goals was also reduced. Great strides were no longer possible because there were too many areas requiring my attention. But that didn’t mean no progress was made. I found myself celebrating tiny wins and you know what? This is a discipline I’ve grown to love. Every step of progress deserves acknowledgment because each requires effort and attention.

New Bible Study Techniques?

I read Jen Wilkin’s book Women of the Word and while it is a thorough way to study Scripture, in this season of my life it’s just not possible. I loved the inclusion of the “why” behind Jen’s study method. Still, I’ll be sticking with the other 5 P’s for now presented by Priscilla Shirer.

It’s great to know that there are so many ways to study the Bible, but this was also a great reminder that we all need to do what we can within our learning styles and time restraints.

New Opportunities

This fall was a rough one on the football field, but there was a glimmer of hope with our freshman and so far they are showing signs of maturity lacking in previous teams. Another thing I learned this fall is that sometimes you just need to cling to the future while still loving the mess in front of you.

I’ve started working through the prep worksheets for Powersheets for 2019. I’m applying all the lessons I’ve learned in 2018 as I plan out goals and action steps to achieve them. Each lesson learned paves the way for new opportunities.

I’m linking up with Emily P. Freeman for What I Learned. Head over to her blog to see what others are posting.