Author: Beth Walker

Book Review: The Enneagram Collection

Book Review: The Enneagram Collection

Book Reviews

Ah the Enneagram! The new (but not new at all) personality test. The thing is, the Enneagram is much more than a fun personality quiz.

As Ian Cron explains, The Enneagram is an ancient personality type system with an uncanny accuracy in describing how God has wired human beings both positively and negatively. By challenging us to explore who we are, the Enneagram helps us recognize and overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior and to become our most authentic selves. Bravely exploring how God has created us requires much more work than many realize.

Identifying our number, wing, or subtype is just the beginning of our Enneagram journey. There are many books out there that will present a broad overview of the Enneagram, there aren’t many books that help you go deeper into learning about your specific type. That’s what sets The Enneagram Collection by Beth McCord apart.

“The real power of the Enneagram comes when we surrender to the Holy Spirit, and depend solely on Him to do the transforming work inside us and the people we love. When we press on toward growth, it allows us to walk with the Spirit and trust him in new and dynamic ways moment by moment, day by day.”

Beth McCord

Each of these journals is divided into 21 entries that include further education about the Enneagram, specific information about your type with the context of that subject, and reflection questions. The journal entries are designed to help you dig deeper into how you view yourself, God, and the world.

There isn’t a specific pace you need to go abide by, and for some numbers you will likely find that some entries take a few days to dissect as you reflect on the questions. What I found interesting is the charts are very number specific. As I did a side by side comparison of charts about strengths, weaknesses, and worldview it was clear that each book is written to the number. If you get the 8 you will read a book for Type 8s.

I learned a lot of information from these books I haven’t found anywhere else. If you’re looking to learn more about your number this is a great next step in your Enneagram journey.

One caution though. It’s easy to mistype yourself and these books are specifically written to one type. Spend time on the page listening to each audio clip. And if you’re still having trouble nailing down your type reach out to a coach. Megan Hall, founder of Dauntless Grace Ministries is a great one I can personally recommend!

Coaches’ Wives Can Relate to Joseph

Coaches’ Wives Can Relate to Joseph

Christmas Nativity

The holidays are here! Every year I try to figure out how to create family memories besides those that include eating hotel breakfasts buffets for days during family visits and watching Star Wars movies.

The truth is the best way to keep our boys focused on the true meaning of Christmas is to keep myself in the right frame of mind. It’s tempting to gloss over the Christmas story.

When our kids were younger I would spend time reading the book What God Really Wants for Christmas is You each night during recruiting season. This was a great way to begin the holiday season and remind our boys to look beyond material gifts.

Now that everyone is older and busier it’s harder to find moments to pause and reflect together. Of course, as a wife and mother, I’ve always felt drawn to Mary, Jesus’ mother.

Mary’s courage is so inspiring. In Luke 1:26-38 an angel visits her and tells her three things. First, God views her as highly favored. Second, the angel says, “the Lord is with you.” The third thing the angel says is the most amazing. Luke 1:30-33 says:

But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.”

I think Mary was in shock because rather than argue or disagree she asks the angel for clarification since she is a virgin and after an explanation, she responds in verse 38 with the most courageous response I believe anyone could muster. “ ‘I am the Lord’s servant,’ Mary answered. ‘May your word to me be fulfilled.’ Then the angel left her.”

With one sentence Mary took a step of obedience that changed the world forever and I’m so thankful for her courage. Her choice shifted the trajectory of the world. Consider this, we measure time by the birth and death of Mary’s child. B.C. and A.D.

Still, many people focus on Mary as they tell the Christmas story and consider Joseph a minor character. But I believe this is a mistake. Read the rest over at Friday Night Wives

3 Self-Care Investments for Coaches’ Wives

3 Self-Care Investments for Coaches’ Wives

3 Self-Care Investments for Coaches' Wives

There are a few things I wish I’d known earlier on in life about myself. I wish I knew that to flourish I need some time to myself for an extended period of time a few times a year. I wish I knew that in order to not feel crazy during the football season I need a community of women who understand our unique lifestyle. Finally, I wish I knew that as a verbal processor, I comprehend concepts best when I can talk them through with people after studying them, especially Biblical concepts.

Had I understood the importance of these three things I would have worked harder to create space in my calendar for weekends away with my girlfriends and with Ordell. I would have budgeted for intentional retreats rather than hoping opportunities for breaks would come along. Interestingly, in a broad sense, these three things are often suggestions for many women when it comes to self-care.

3 Self-Care Investments for Coaches’ Wives

A Good Bible Study

This one may sound obvious, or it may sound ridiculous to you depending on where you are in your journey. Even if you don’t believe in God stick with me here for a minute.

Trello, which is an organization and productivity software has a blog post titled Why Self-Care is The Secret to Becoming a Productivity Powerhouse where author Deanna deBarra says ” At the core, self-care is about fostering the relationship and connection you have with yourself. It’s about giving your whole self (mind, body, spirit) exactly what you need to function at your highest (and happiest!) level—which can, in turn, make you more productive. “

Mind-Body-Spirit. Yep! You read that right. Our souls long to rest and for me, that includes engaging with my creator and learning more about him. As a writer, I find that journaling helps me stay focused as I’m praying, but when I’m stuck on a concept I want to talk through things with other people.

Personal study is great, but if you can, I encourage you to find time for a community Bible study. Bible Study Fellowship is great, but it is a pretty significant commitment. Does your church have small groups? What about a local community group?

If you aren’t able to do something in person check out Coaches’ Wives Ministry. This membership-based group is a bit of an investment, however, you receive access to so many materials each month such as Right Now Media, a Quarterly Magazine with a Bible Study Guide, and a private Facebook Group that your membership dollars certainly stretch.

Find Your Tribe

It’s so important to surround yourself with women who you know are standing shoulder to shoulder with you regardless of the scoreboard. During the season there will be weeks where it feels like everyone on social media is a fan for the other team. There will be times when you just need to talk about how frustrating a situation is without looking like a whiner or having to explain the rules of football. Other times you need advice from someone who has been in a similar situation.

We are created for relationship. There is a lot of value in taking time to find people who understand what it’s like to live the coaching life and spend time fostering those relationships. It’s helpful to have people in your life who are willing to say “Hey, we’ve been in a similar situation, and here’s what did or didn’t work for us.” You can still do what you want with the information, but it’s always better than walking into a situation blind.

Trust is built over time, and your tribe should certainly include both coaching families and those who are like-minded whether they are a part of coaching or not. Invest in relationships even if it means you have to budget a little spending money for coffee every once in a while or extra time in your calendar for dinner with the girls once a month. These relationships are vital!

It’s always best to foster these relationships in person, however, we know that since coaching families move so often that we can’t let distance limit our relationships. Utilize social media in healthy ways, find your safe spaces, and always look to form in-person relationships.

Invest in a Retreat

It’s worth the time away to have a structured weekend where people are intentionally pouring into you at least once a year. Think about it. People attend conferences for work all the time. We’re expected to gather continuing education credits for almost every certification we earn, and work conferences focus on specific areas of expertise.

Why wouldn’t we do the same thing for our marriages and personal lives? I’ve compiled a list of marriage conferences here. And if you are in the Midwest I’d like to personally invite you to join us at the end of January for the Pursue Coaches’ Wives Retreat!

Pursue Coaches Wives Retreat

Early Bird Registration only lasts a few more weeks!

Coaches’ wives if you get a chance to be in a room with other coaches wives TAKE IT! However, there are plenty of other retreats. Consider your church’s women’s retreat, or look for a conference that will improve a skill you are focused on improving.

The point is to do something for yourself that takes you away from the routine of your household and work duties for a few days.

One or two structured events a year coupled with vacation weekends will keep you renewed year-round. I should note, you really don’t need a full weekend either. You will be amazed at what 24-hours away will do for you when need to force yourself to slow down.

Ultimately, it’s important to remember that you are worth investing in, even if it means saying no to something or spending money when you are working with a tight budget. Self-care is vital to your long-term sustained health.