Because I Can

Because I can

Last week I spent several days in Tennessee with a dear friend and her delightful daughters. My trip was a combination of work and fun, but the timing on it was scheduled intentionally. You see, my friend’s husband is currently deployed.

Working remotely includes the benefits of working from anywhere there is WiFi, so as soon as I heard a deployment was pending I looked at our calendar and found a few weeks where life would allow for a jaunt south.

I was welcomed with opened arms, set up in a beautiful guest room and my friend jumped into hostess mode. She clearly has the spiritual gift of hospitality and was moving through her days making sure I was entertained on top of maintaining her home, working full-time, mothering two young girls, and keeping the plates of daily life spinning.

By day two I finally spoke up. “I didn’t come to add to your burden, I planned this trip to lighten your load. Please let me unload the dishwasher.”

The startled look on my sweet friend’s face told me I hadn’t made my intentions clear from the start. “Who does that? Who leaves their family to come help people like this?”

I smiled because the answer is obvious. Coaches wives! We’ve all been there! We know what it’s like to need extra adult hands for a few days while our husbands are in the thick of recruiting or pre-season camp.

We know how hard it is to run errands with littles and how something always breaks when our husbands are away.

Now that my boys are older and my husband’s schedule allows me the time and opportunity to help the answer is simple.

Who does this? Me

Why? Because I can.

Let’s be clear. I’m not sharing this to brag and I realize my opportunity is not one everyone can seize, but you do not need to drive hours out of town to serve families in the midst of deployment

So, whether you know a coaches’s wife who is on her own with the kids or a military wife in the same boat here are a few ideas of ways you can help:

  • Invite them for a meal
  • Drop a meal off
  • Watch the kids so mom can run errands
  • Give gift cards to their favorite restaurants
  • Clean their house
  • Bring the trash cans up from the curb
  • Send them a note and tell them they are amazing

We all have the capacity to do something to help cheer each other on. When we embrace the opportunity with a “because I can” attitude we all win. The truth is, what feels like an insignificant good deed will impact someone who needs support immensely.