After years of hinting and months of direct conversations, Ordell is finally recording some of his thoughts about the coaching life. Ordell answers questions and shares his wisdom and insights about the challenges coaches face from his perspective at both the college and high school levels. What I love most is that my husband understands the tremendous impact coaches have on the generations of athletes they encounter and he doesn’t shy away from speaking directly about the need to press into the mission and ministry of coaching.
How to Hire the Right Fit
How do you hire the right people for your culture?
First, get rid of the basic questions.
Figure out how people think and then ask questions they aren’t expecting.
- Example: You’ve never coached the goalies. If assigned that role how would you go about learning how to be competent?
- Take the toughest scenarios you’ve dealt with as a coach or heard about and create questions based from real life situations.
- Take time to figure out how to you ask questions in such a way that there are no right answers.
What is an Afterglow?
Hey coaches, what do you do with your team after the game is over? Do you have a structure? An Afterglow is a great way to pull the whole team together to celebrate individual and team success. Depending on your school, you may even have the opportunity to include the fans in the stands.
Not only is an Afterglow a great way to celebrate players that are overlooked by people who don’t understand the nuances of the sport but it’s a chance to acknowledge players publicly in front of their families.
How Can Coaches’ Wives Best Support Coaches?
We covered a lot of subjects in this two part interview. Today Coach Walker and Beth and answering the question “How can coaches’ wives best support coaches?” We talk about this question as it relates to life on the field, as ministry partners, and at different points in their career.
- The head coach gets to define the terms of engagement.
- Don’t get caught up with definitions. Cultures use the same words but have different meanings.
- Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.
- This program is a family. Learn what the head coaches’ definition of family is.
- Work to really learn and understand what the head coach’s expectation.
Be Committed to:
#1 No spouse drama.
#2 No crowd drama.
You have your own opinion but when you share it outside the program people will assume it’s the coaches’ opinion.
Wives as Ministry Partners Can Significantly Support their Husbands:
- Choose to be ministry partners
- Help him team build
- Birthdays reminders
- Parent communication
- Be their support, not their protector
PS- Coach Walk mentions a resource Lessons from the Sidelines. You can learn more here.
What are the things Players Should Leave a Program Understanding Part 3
Whatever you emphasize and talk about most is what your players will understand when they leave your program.
7. Hater’s Manifesto (“Hated it”)
People fill what is lacking and they deflate what is full… so be humble
8. Selfless Not Selfish
Babies think the world revolves around them. If they don’t learn it doesn’t, they will destroy their relationships.
Philippians 2:4 Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.
If you are the kind of person who can be selfless- meaning you don’t just consider your own interest but the interest of others you will have many prosperous relationships.
9. Figure it Out!
Accept full responsibility for your life with no excuses. The buck stops with you. Figure it out!
No matter what happens in your life take full responsibility, with no excuses. When you are responsible, you have an opportunity to change any circumstance. When you don’t take responsibility, you leave your circumstances in the power of someone else who may or may not fix it. No matter what, Figure it Out.
3 Questions to Get You Started:
What are you talking about the most? Ask your players and coaches in your self-evaluation process.
What are your buzz words?
Are you testing them?
What are the Things Players Should Leave Your Program Understanding? (Part 2 of 3)
4. Love is a Verb
You see a need, You have resources for the need, You Act
Jam 2:15-16 Suppose you see a brother or sister who has no food or clothing, and you say, “Good-bye and have a good day: stay warm and eat well” – but then you don’t give that person any food or clothing. What good does that do?
5. Uncommon Work Ethic
The work is finished when it is done correctly; not when the clock expires
Players should understand that a great work ethic is not tied to a clock or attempted repetitions. An uncommon work ethic is only concerned with the question “Was the job complete correctly?”
6. Adversity Reveals
Adversity exposes the real you. Do you fight or flight? Learn to be a fighter.
Adversity is a great teacher. It will reveal what kind of person you really are. We may think we are the kind of person that doesn’t quit. But you will only know that when you face real adversity. You may think you know how to persevere. But you won’t be tested until you face adversity. Players should understand how to treat adversity as a teaching tool to learn how to persevere. Adversity is a reality of the human experience. Let’s learn how to persevere instead of learning how to be a quitter.
What are the Things Players Should Leave Your Program Understanding? Part 1 of 3
Whatever you talk about most is what your players will understand when they leave your program.
- It doesn’t matter what posters you put up
- It doesn’t matter what handouts are in your playbook
- It doesn’t matter what you say to parents
If you aren’t constantly talking about those things, players are not likely to leave your program with an understanding of what you care about as a program. In this video, Coach Walker presents 3 key points of his coaching philosophy.
1. Courage or Coward
You’re only enacting courage when you’re afraid. The coward uses fear as an excuse. The courageous move forward even though fear is present.
We all have fears, anxiety, uncertainty in some area of our life. However, that is not an excuse not to act. We want the player to be courageous in spite of the fears that have.
2. Attitude Of Gratitude
When you fail to express gratitude you communicate ingratitude.
I want players to understand the power of gratitude and how it works. If you fail to say thank you or show appreciation for something someone else has done you are likely communicating ingratitude to that person. That’s probably not what you want.
3. Commitment over Comfort
Your feelings are the enemies of your dreams.
Our feelings and emotions are always changing. Motivation comes and goes. Don’t rely on your motivation to act. If you do, your feelings will become an enemy to the goals you have. Feelings aren’t behaviors. You can always act in a way that is counter to how you feel.
Culture is King
Are your team captains and your team leaders always the same people?
Ideally, however, what do you do when the main influencers on your team aren’t leaders?
You better have influence on the people who influence your culture.
How Do You Balance X’s & O’s with Ministry?
- Ministry is the Job. But you are paid for the X’s and O’s. This can be a challenging thing to balance if you don’t keep ministry as your foundation.
- Winning is an endless cycle of dissatisfaction. Even when you win you will eventually be criticized for how you win.
- When you have the choice, hire ministry oriented coaches.
- Then train and evaluate them.
- Schedule ministry first then build your X’s & O’s around it.
- Coaches without a ministry mindset will get in the way of your team’s vision.
- Learn to clearly articulate where you are headed.
Coaches! Looking for the Perfect Gift for Your Wife?
Check out Lessons from the Sidelines:
Public life can be lonely, even when you are living on mission. We all need a cheerleader from time to time, and Lessons from the Sidelines aims to be just that. As the wife of a football coach, Beth Walker encourages women whose families are in the public eye to pursue their own callings even as they support their husbands’ careers and ministries. Through her own personal stories as well as interviews with other women who are also living just outside their husbands’ limelight, Beth shows it’s possible to do both.