One opportunity virtual school has created for my teenage sons is the ability to step outside of “class” and walk into my home office to ask a question or share whatever thought crosses their mind. It doesn’t happen often, but the questions my sons wrestle with these days aren’t lighthearted.
They wonder why some people assume my husband and I are divorced when they haven’t met us. They also ask why people who attend church define loving people one way when the people they serve say they don’t feel loved by the church. My teens want firm answers on who is right and who is wrong.
As we’ve talked through different experiences, I’ve noticed a pattern. It seems there is a faux pas we’re all capable of committing, which is a “leap before we look” attitude. I observe that the risk of committing this error increases when we surround ourselves with people who think similarly to us. When others constantly affirm that we are right, we can have difficulty accepting an opposing thought as valid when someone presents one.
Seth Godin says, “Based on who they are and what they want and what they know, everyone is right. Every time.” The question then becomes, what is it that someone defines as “right” and why?
Going back to my sons’ questions, the first one about our marriage has absolute truth. My husband and I are not divorced, and neither of us was previously married. So those who assume otherwise are wrong.
The second scenario up for discussion presents multiple opportunities for people to root in and claim the higher ground of being “right.” Why do people who attend church define loving people one way when the people they serve say they don’t feel loved by the church? This is a difficult question to answer concisely, but I think we can consider part of the why for some people. Continue reading the rest of this article over on The Glorious Table…