It’s time to celebrate the most important women in your life. I’ll admit that this Hallmark holiday hasn’t always been easy for me. My first Mother’s Day was spent in the hospital with a very sick newborn. On my second mother’s day, I discovered I was pregnant even though we were not trying, and becoming pregnant was strictly against the doctor’s advice.
Then of course once I was at a place where I was finally able to enjoy motherhood (past the years where we thought I was going to die and all that stuff) there was the guilt from other women. From some women, I was shamed for celebrating publically because they felt I shouldn’t “rub my joy in their faces”. From other women, I was criticized for not celebrating with my children or not celebrating “correctly” which is essentially to say the same way they were.
Mother’s Day is Complicated Because Women Make it So
This year my mother’s day wish is to have a day to acknowledge motherhood without everyone else’s input. I’ve thought about this for a while now, and I think the best gift that women can give each other is the gift of allowing each other one day to acknowledge that motherhood is difficult and deserves celebration without the caveat of adding whatboutisms.
Everywhere moms turn someone is telling them they are not enough. Their cooking contributions come up short, homework supervision is never enough until it’s too much. And of course, we all know moms who work are failures because they have to divide their time and attention (insert sarcastic eye-roll here). PS- Mom’s who work ROCK! I know, I’m one of them.
The Number One Gift for Mom This Year is a Thank You
Let’s spend some time saying thank you on this Mother’s Day. Thank you to the moms who keep clothes clean, meals coming, homes organized, and make sure that everyone gets everywhere they need to be for school, sports, music lessons, and more. Here’s the key, your goal is to say thank you the way your mom will most appreciate and receive your acknowledgment.
Here Are a Few Gift Ideas for Mother’s Day
- Does your mom need a break from cooking and cleaning (yes)? Take over the chores for the weekend and cook for the week. Sure a nice dinner out is a wonderful celebration, but what could your mom do with a whole week off from cooking and cleaning?
- Does your mom tear up anytime you write her a note? Well, get going! Spend time writing an intentional letter thinking about the last year. Your mom has sacrificed in some ways you may not yet realize.
- Do you notice your mom is always asking you to run an errand with her? GO with her! She isn’t asking you to run the errand for her, she’s looking for some quality time with her loved ones.
Tangible Gifts are Perfectly Acceptable
Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages indicates that one of the five top love languages is receiving gifts. If your mom will appreciate a gift most of all then make sure you spend time thinking about the intentional gift you will give her. I’ve curated several gift lists in the past. You can check out my favorite tangible gift ideas from 2020 here. Mother’s Day gifts for Coaches’ Wives are listed here. Creative Gifts for the mother in your life are here.
If you haven’t picked up a copy of my book now is the time! Lessons from the Sidelines make a great gift for the woman in your life.
As the wife of a football coach, Beth Walker encourages women whose families are in the public eye to pursue their own callings even as they support their husbands’ careers and ministries. Through her own personal stories as well as interviews with other women who are also living just outside their husbands’ limelight, Beth shows it’s possible to do both.