If you have a spouse that travels for work you might find yourself feeling disconnected at times. Additionally, if your spouse works 15 hour days all week leading up to the travel, well, I think you might have a spouse that coaches!
Like most teams around the country about half the games will be played in other states this year. Trips include heading to Kentucky, North Carolina, Georgia, and Alabama. Although I’ll travel to some of the games, others I’ll stay home and cheer at the computer screen.
I’ve found a few things that help us stay connected over the years amongst the craziness of the season. Some have been implemented at the advice of others, some are what connect us because our personalities are what they are.
- Date Night. It doesn’t matter if this is actually a breakfast or lunch out when the boys are is school, a late-night Red Box movie or an actual traditional date. The point is intentional time away from the office and other people. When we’ve felt like two ships passing in the sea it often circles back to the need for a date.
- Snacks. Bus trips can get long, and gas station food at stops can not only get boring, but expensive. I’ve found that spending some time making up a personalized trail mix or even buying some favorite snacks in the store is always appreciated.
- Notes. Any card store will find the sweetest cards about being apart from a loved one. I’ve dropped a card strategically into the suitcase after it’s been packed to find upon arrival more than once. When road trips are back to back, this can be a nice way to remind my coach weekends apart are never my preference.
- Clearing the calendar. Although this one isn’t always possible, I’ve found that protecting our Sundays by saying no to extra activities can go a long way towards keeping our relationship a priority. Busyness can be the death of any relationship, especially one that needs time. By keeping Sundays more low key, we have time to rest and recuperate for the next crazy week.
- Being present. This might mean watching the game to talk about it later or traveling along riding the bus with the team. It’s never about what is said, merely the physical reminder that I’m here to support you.
I’m linking up with Mrs. Disciple for #FridayFive!