I’m linking marriage and dating resources for you to review. Most of these books aren’t on the most recent best seller lists but they have had valuable information for me and they may for you as well.
9 Steps to Defeating Isolation In Your Marriage I’m all about an action plan in life, whether you see that as being a “control freak” or “obsessive planner” one of the things that make my heartache is watching people walk through life refusing to look ahead because they have things all figured out. “Every marriage, no matter how good, needs a plan to defeat isolation and to bring about intimacy. Isolation is like a terminal virus that invades your marriage, silently, slowly, and painlessly at first. By the time many couples become aware of its insidious effects, it can be too late.”
103 words of affirmation every husband wants to hear “From the man’s perspective, if his woman doesn’t believe in him . . . isn’t fanatically committed to his potential, it doesn’t much matter what others think. He’s already living in Thoreau’s muse, a diminished man.” Solid reminder here, so important.
8 most annoying habits of modern dating echos conversations I have monthly with college students these days. “The Internet changed everything, but especially dating. Not only could you meet someone online, even communicating became a breeze thanks to texting, commenting, swiping and any other form of courtship that requires four seconds of moving your thumbs in-between YouTube video viewings.”
5 Types of People You Should Marry had me nodding along the whole time. “When it comes to relationships, so many people are waiting for that magical moment. But whether or not that magical moment even exists, it can’t be trusted, because it’s not “confirmation”—it’s feelings.”
The Path Between Us teaches how we relate to each other out of our enneagram personalities. Relationships are challenging and if there is anything the past three to four years have taught us it’s that we can sit in the same room, listen to the same thing and comprehend completely different points. The enneagram is an excellent tool to help you understand how those you love, work with, and interact with see the world. Most importantly, the enneagram and The Path Between Us is an excellent tool to help you learn how to self-reflect and soften some of those rougher edges that others may not respond to all that well.
For the Coaching Family, I’ve got a chapter in Lessons from the Sidelines on marriage that many have found helpful.
As the wife of a football coach, Beth Walker encourages women whose families are in the public eye to pursue their own callings even as they support their husbands’ careers and ministries. Through her personal stories as well as interviews with other women who are also living just outside their husbands’ limelight, Beth shows it’s possible to do both.