She Is My Delight

Tirzah is a Hebrew word meaning “she is my delight.” I stumbled across this word a few times as I was studying Scripture several years ago and became intrigued by the times it was used. Little did I know that the stirring in my heart surrounding this word would lead to a deep realization regarding my relationships with God and with my husband.

Tirzah appears in the Old Testament book of Song of Solomon.

“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,
He who pastures his flock among the lilies.”

“You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling,
As lovely as Jerusalem,
As awesome as an army with banners.

Song of Solomon 6:3-4

Song of Solomon is a debated book. Theologians disagree on everything from the authorship to whether it’s allegorical or literal. If you read the book literally, it is a beautifully written love letter between King Solomon his beloved, The Shulamite Bride. As the couple writes letters to each other they declare their devotion and attraction to each other.  

It is clear how much King Solomon admires his bride, and the result of his exploration of the fullness of that attraction is chapter 6:4 when we hear that the Shulamite Bride is the delight of her King.

Marriage Includes Delight

I paused on the word Tirzah, first looking up the definition to see if where else I could find it in the Bible.

Because it was in Song of Solomon I found myself asking two specific questions:

  • What does it look like to be the delight of my husband?
  • What does it look like to be the delight of my God?

I began journaling, exploring the word delight, and used a few online Bible tools to form a fuller picture.  

Baker’s Bible Study Tool Says Delight:

The idea of delight occurs approximately 110 times in Scripture in various forms. Less than fifteen occurrences are found in the New Testament. The related concept of “please” occurs about 350 times, about seventy-five of these occurrences in the New Testament.

The Old Testament. Two of the most common Hebrew terms for delight are hepes, “to bend towards, to be inclined towards [an object or person], ” and rasa, “to delight or take pleasure in.”

Clearly, the theme of delight repeats in Scripture. I took this lead and as I read each verse about delight I began to understand how God delights in his children. My studies also shined a light on what I was lacking when it came to delight and connection.

God delights in the obedience of his children more than in sacrifices (1 Sam 15:22) God is also delighted with honesty in business (Prov 20:23), a blameless life (11:20), truthfulness (12:22), and the prayers of the upright (15:8). 

God acknowledges his delight in Jesus during his baptism and transfiguration (Matt 3:17; 17:5).

The more I explore and study the word Tirzah and all that it includes, I continue to realize that it is a deep desire of mine to delight my husband and God.  

Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on February 20, 2015, and has been updated in February 2021 for freshness, accuracy, and completeness.