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Praying in Dark Seasons

Praying in Dark Seasons

I’m writing over at The Glorious Table today. Here’s a preview:

“‘Everything is possible for one who believes.’ Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, ‘I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!’” (Mark 9:23-24 NIV).

A friend recently texted and asked me to join her in praying for a miracle. She sent me a list with specific dates and a few details. As each day on the calendar arrived, we messaged to touch base. I prayed expectantly, hopefully, anxiously, and tearfully as the weeks passed.

Many times, a message with an update would leave me speechless. Disappointment is never easy to respond to in a text, and then we would learn a few days later that hope was still on the horizon. As I cried out for my sweet friend, my prayers continued to come back to a few sentences: “God, she needs to see you show up here.” “She needs to see you create beauty from ashes.” “God, she needs a miracle.” “God, please!”

The more I prayed, the more I realized that where I was praying “she” in the depths of my heart I was whispering “I.” The truth is that I also longed to see a miracle. I wanted to see God create beauty from ashes.

Dark seasons weigh heavily on us. In the Bible, we learn about the lives of Joseph, Naomi, Ruth, and Job, just to name a few, who all go through long, hard times. We also see God show up in their lives and move in amazing ways. Joseph, for example, acknowledges that his years of slavery in Egypt were for a greater purpose.

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How to Get through the Hardest Seasons

How to Get through the Hardest Seasons

How to Get through the Hardest Seasons

“This season is sucking the life out of us.”

“I don’t know how much more we can take.”

“I don’t even know what to say anymore.”

Recently these sentiments have crossed my messages and I’ve found myself passing along the same advice a few times. It seems that for one reason or another this year is a particularly exhausting one for coaching families.

Those that have winning records are still dealing with parents who are angry over playing time or have coaches on staff causing chaos. Teams with losing records are just downright exhausted and this has left many coaches’ wives feeling the tension in the stands and at home.

Football is often all-consuming for a family simply because of the long hours coaches put in between practice, film, weight room, and team building. This doesn’t even include the requirements of a high school or middle school coach’s teaching job which usually makes up the majority of his salary.

It’s important to remember that just because something takes up a lot of calendar time does not mean it has to consume every aspect of your life. Hard football seasons do not need to be life crisis seasons.

Life is About More than Football

It may not feel like it during the season, but your husband is more than a football coach. When the season is hard and things require you all to dig a little deeper and give a little more it’s important to remember that there WILL be an end to the madness. You will get your weekends back if only for a little while. You will have a reprieve from football practices and the critical fans in the stands who can’t understand that the play on the field that was poorly executed was likely not the supposed to go that way. And while watching film doesn’t seem to ever end, the need to breakdown film in the middle of the night will also stop in a few weeks.

Try to create time and space for things other than football:

  • Try to create space to talk about things other than football during the day. As if something funny happened in class or talk about a podcast you listened to that day.
  • Find a show to watch on Netfilx together or take a walk and enjoy being outside away from an athletic field.
  • Consider planning a weekend away to decompress after the season and talk about the fun things you will do when you are away.
  • Save up some spending money and invest in a hobby other than football. Does your husband like to hunt? Send him on a guys trip. Does he collect something? Create space for him to add to the collection and time to go find a new piece. Does he like to build things? Find a new item you need him to create.
  • Find time for him to spend with your kids. Head to the park or go swimming.
  • Remind him that he is more than a Coach and every part is important.

Make Time for Church

The easiest thing to give up when life is hard is church. It’s easy to convince yourself that Sunday mornings sleeping is better than going to church where you have to face people asking questions about Friday night’s loss. But in reality, you will all feel better when you take time to stop wallowing and focus on God.

Does your church offer small groups? Are they at a time when you can attend? If you can, make this a priority. It’s worth it to be around people who will help you focus on God rather than football as much as possible. If your church is like ours and the times don’t align consider seeking out an FCA Chaplin. You may be able to meet over a lunch hour or after practice.

Remember Your Why

“People don’t buy “what” you do, they buy “why” you do it” – Simon Sinek

Simon Sinek is famous in the marketing world for encouraging people to “start with why.” While his original premise was about helping people understand that they have to believe in the greater purpose behind the mission of a company, the reality is we the same applies internally.

We need to have a larger purpose behind why we are doing something or we are unlikely to stick with it when things get hard. If coaching is about wins and losses it’s not going to stick.

If football is about influencing the next generation you start to see a greater why. When coaching includes teaching principles of life such as how to dig deeper and band together when things are hard or how to communicate as a team, step up and be a servant leader, and model integrity even under pressure then it’s likely to keep everyone focused on the bigger picture.

Extend Grace to Each Other

While nothing will make a tough season “easy” a shift in perspective can make it something you can endure. The great thing about sports that at the end of every season the record resets. Hopefully, the team will be motivated to work harder in the off-season. But not before you get some well-deserved rest and quality time as a family first.

In the meantime, remember you guys are the Hometeam and regardless of what’s happening on the field and at practice, it doesn’t need to affect what happens in your home. Choose to speak with kinder words to each other. Choose to give each other space when you need it, and find ways to laugh together.

Understand that there will still be hard days. Choose to love each other through them. For better or worse wasn’t added in wedding vows by a former coach that I know of, but that commitment certainly applies in this situation!

We all have hard seasons in our careers. Some are more public than others. In the long run, even the most public and powerful jobs are just that, jobs. So hang in there and remember, the record book will reset in a few weeks.

Father’s Day Gift Ideas 2019

Father’s Day Gift Ideas 2019

Favorite Gifts for Your Favorite Coach

Father’s Day is next week! There are so many awesome coach themed gift options these days. Today I’m sharing gifts of all ranges for your favorite coach on Father’s Day.

Here are my Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Practical Gifts for His Career

Rocketbook I’m always looking for a way to curb the scrap paper doodles. The great thing about the Rocketbook is that it’s reusable AND transfers doodles from paper to computer.

Polarized Sunglasses Every coach who coaches outside needs excellent quality sunglasses. WebMD explains ” The sun gives off UV radiation that you can’t see or feel. In small doses, it boosts vitamin D. But too much of it can cause problems like sunburn and skin cancer. It can also damage your eyes.” So don’t be afraid to grab a few pairs and spend a little money.

personalized clipboard

This personalized clipboard/dry erase board is adorable but also increases the chances of your husband coming home with his whiteboard after the game!

Check out this engraved whistle too!

Gifts for His Hobby

What does your favorite coach love to do in his few minutes of free time? Fish? Hike? Read? Play video games? Head to the movies? Create a gift that tells him you understand he needs to rest and relax.

  • Fill a tackle box with fishing supplies and buy his fishing license for the year.
  • Pack a bag with snacks and plan a great day hike.
  • Get him that headset gamers say is a must have even though he will barely use it.

Time Away

When your life feels like non-stop crazy one of the best gifts you can give is time away. Block the calendar and sneak out of town with or without the kids. Even driving 30 minutes away can provide an opportunity to explore new restaurants and have a date without interruptions!!

There you have it! By the way, I don’ t have any affiliate links in this post! Just one girlfriend helping out another! Hope you have a great Father’s Day with your favorite coach this year!