Insulate Your Marriage from Stress

I grew up hearing that fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. I always found this confusing because barely anyone I knew was divorced, nor were their parents. It turns out that the fifty percent number was statistically accurate in 1980 and when you analyze the trends it has dropped … Read More

Ways to Invest in Your Marriage

When a good portion of your life is spent serving other people in the public eye it’s important to take time out to invest your energy in your marriage too. Although coaches, pastors, parachurch ministers, and military members serve their communities in different capacities there are several similarities which makes … Read More

Your Best Investment

This weekend I began my yearly post Christmas purge of our home. Having the extra motivation thanks to Marie Kondo on Netflix and an amazing find at our local Dollar Tree I was ready to tackle organizing our closet for the first time in our almost two years of living … Read More

Join Us in June!

Last June, Ordell and I attended the 3rd annual Coaches Marriage Getaway hosted by the Illini Land FCA. The last FCA couples retreat we attended was in 2005 I wasn’t sure how applicable the sessions would be since we are now entering that “seasoned” marriage phase and much of the … Read More

Silver Holloware and Anniversary 16

Thoughts from the Sidelines

Dear Ordell,

According to the Wedding Anniversary Gift Guide year, 16 is Silver Holloware. This seems fitting considering we seem to lose multiple forks with each recent move.

Reflecting on the last year of our marriage it’s hard to believe so much has happened in just 365 days. Even harder to believe is that although neither of us could have predicted where we would be living, nor even both of our jobs transitioning, we’ve embraced things together so well it has been the smoothest transition so far.

This year marks the sale of our first home (finally), moving back to the Midwest, and the year we no longer have single-digit children in our house. We’ve never been healthier physically, emotionally, spiritually nor as a married couple.

Our roles are ever-shifting as the boy’s needs change, as job demands change, and as we figure out our strengths and limits. I love watching your relationship with Elijah and Levi deepen. As they take on new challenges you are there with them reminding them to be courageous, and they are listening.

I love seeing you put into practice at home all the things we’ve heard you say on the football field the last decade and I love seeing our sons respond.

We are figuring out another new normal these days, and yet our home has a calmness to it that I haven’t felt in years. I know it is in large part because that is the tempo and tone you strive for.

There is something solid about silver that seems so fitting for year 16. When tarnish build-up is removed a beautiful shine appears. There is no doubt of the sturdiness of silver. It will last, regardless of the shape, it is formed into. A dish, bowl, knife, or fork will function as it is created to do. And right now I can’t think of a better symbol for year 16 of marriage.

Year 16