Weeds part 4

Back last spring I was presented with a situation not all that uncommon with women. I asked over and over for forgiveness, reconciliation, and peace and was refused on all accounts over and over. Things actually got so bad a third party needed to get involved. In one of my meetings after being told, “It’s not you, it’s her, you didn’t do anything wrong, that’s just how she treats people, and you need to be ok with not reconciling because she doesn’t want to” there was something said that actually stuck.
When we stand with another Christian whether they are present or not, we stand together around the same campfire. It is our collective job to make sure that the campfire stays lit, but doesn’t get too hot. When someone else enters the area around the campfire, they are coming for one of 3 reasons.
1) To make things hot
2) to try and extinguish things
3) to stay warm and help keep the fire going.
As a woman, I think we often find ourselves in situations where a kind or well-placed word might help. Yet, so often if we actually look at the true intentions it is to make ourselves look better. Even in a situation where the other person is untruthful, speaking out, pointing out the untruth will only fuel a fire. I wanted forgiveness, reconciliation, and peace because it was right, but I was forcing it on my time because I couldn’t see this issue really wasn’t about me at all.
So far, my favorite Larson quote is: “We would do well to remember that some women who are currently the delicate topic of conversations are actually in their refining time. God is getting ready to promote them. We will be held accountable for how we speak about the Lord’s anointed, whether she is hiding in a cave or crawling through a valley. Our time would be much better serves as God’s precious, uncommon women if we were to pour our energy, our passion, and our words into prayers for people and the things we notice about them.”
I have been guilty of wanting to defend. Not only that, but I am guilty of much worse. Gossip, lying, telling only half a story. As a human, it is my nature. As a Christian, I MUST fight against it. Recently in a book written by David Jeremiah he made the statement “You may be the only Bible someone reads.”
2 Peter 1:5-11 Says: 5For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;7and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. 8For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9But if anyone does not have them, he is nearsighted and blind, and has forgotten that he has been cleansed from his past sins.

10Therefore, my brothers, be all the more eager to make your calling and election sure. For if you do these things, you will never fall, 11and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

I’m looking forward to learning about becoming more uncommon. I’m excited about this new season, and I’m praying it’s a long one. If you care to join me around the campfire there is always room, as long as we’re working on keeping the fire going 🙂

None But Jesus Lyrics by Brooke Fraser, Performed by Hillsong United

In the quiet, in the stillness
I know that You are God
In the secret of Your presence
I know there I am restored when
 You call, I won’t refuse
Each new day again I’ll choose

There is no one else for me
None but Jesus
Crucified to set me free
Now I live to bring Him praise

In the chaos, in confusion
I know You? Be sovereign still
In the moment of my weakness
You give me grace to do Your will

So when You call, I won’t delay
This my song through all my days

There is no one else for me
None but Jesus
Crucified to set me free
Now I live to bring Him praise

All my delight is in You, Lord
All of my hope, all of my strength
All my delight is in You, Lord, forevermore